the good, the bad, the ugly

I’ve always considered myself to be a pretty stand up, honest person. If I’m feeling a certain way because of something someone did, I’m going to let them know. I don’t think I have always been this way necessarily, but as I’ve grown up I’ve come to realize that things won’t change until you let people know what you want changed.

When it comes to relationships with others, I strongly believe that you should be open and honest about anything. Whether it’s telling your friend that the shirt she is wearing isn’t the most flattering, telling your significant other how something they did made you feel (good or bad), or talking about an issue that arose based on someone else’s actions (or lack there of). I’m not saying that being rude or blunt is the solution. I just think, that if you are truly upset because of something that happened, you need to determine what that relationship means to you. If it’s an insignificant bond that you don’t overly care about, then it’s probably just best to leave the issue and focus on other relationships in your life that make you happy. However, if it’s someone you deeply care for, then an expression of how you feel needs to be shared, regardless of how difficult it is. That’s the only way you can hope for a positive change with him or her.

I know what you’re thinking…easier said than done! Everyone knows that the truth isn’t usually what a person wants to hear. Reality check: It’s not always going to be rainbows and butterflies! Many of us dread telling people how we really feel. But the way I look at it is, if the person you are addressing is a true friend or a dedicated partner they are going to respect you. Yes, they may feel a little attacked at first (I think it’s only natural). But, once they’ve had time to decompress and think about it, they’re going to listen to you and try to solve the issue together because they care for you just as much as you care for them.

If they don’t do any of the things above, well then…maybe it’s time to re-evaluate and reflect. Is that the type of person you want in your life? Do they value the relationship as much as you do? Do they care how you feel? Will they stick around through the good, the bad, the ugly?

It’s difficult to face the reality of these questions because we don’t want to accept the truth behind them (probably ’cause we know the truth ain’t rainbows or butterflies!) But maybe this truth will set us free. Maybe knowing the answers will allow us to make a tough, but necessary decision about the status of the relationship. You get to decide.

I know for me personally, I’d rather have a few truthful relationships, than many disloyal relationships. What about you?

jlennon

10 reasons why I hate winter

Don’t get me wrong, I thoroughly enjoy the holiday season. Christmas is by far one of my favourite holidays. However, all of the hype about the pretty white snow and putting up the Christmas decorations wears off pretty quickly. Because eventually, we’re all just faced with the bitter cold weather and a bunch of muddy slush.

So, here are my top 10 reasons why I hate winter:

1. When girls wear those hideous furry boots. I don’t care how warm and amazing they make your feet feel. You look like you’re trying to marry the abominable snowman….and not even he would approve! There are much better ways to spend $200 – these boots are not one of them!
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2. Having to scrape the ice and snow off of your car windshield every morning. You’re running late for work. You hit snooze on your alarm three times too many this morning and now you’re running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off. Trying to find a reasonable outfit for work and scoffing down a piece of toast. You finally finish, put your coat on and rush outside to your car….Only to find 10-15 cm of snow covering your entire car. COOOOL (no pun intended), now you have to run around like a mad women for the next 15 minutes trying to brush off all the snow, scraping off the layer of ice underneath, and heat up your freezing car. Goodbye, coffee stop at Starbucks. Hello, Grinch.

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3. You start looking like one of the Cullen siblings (next level pale). Some of you crazy twihard fans may actually like this one. But for me personally, this is hands down one of the worst things about winter. The sun barely comes out, and it’s dark before 5pm. Everyone instantly looks uglier when they’re pale and it’s not like you can make multiple trips to the tanning bed during the winter months because while everyone’s channeling their inner Cullen, you’ll just look like you belong on MTV’s True Life: I’m addicted to tanning. Not really sure what’s worse..

4. Upkeep gets much more intense. Chapped lips, brittle nails, dry skin, and staticky hair. Every girl feels my pain here. It’s not a good look. Maintaining a soft and subtle glow in the winter season takes some serious work. It can become exhausting.

5. When adults wear those animal HITTS (hat/mittens combined). You’re a 30 year old women…There is no way you should be wearing an animal hat with paw mittens attached. If you are wearing these out in public, there is a 99.9% chance you are a crazy cat lady, and will forever be alone. Get it together people! Donate your HITTS to children, I repeat, CHILDREN who need them!

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6. Immediately sweating the instant you get indoors. I live in Canada, so yes, as most of you can assume, it gets to be extremely cold during the winter. So usually I’ll wear multiple layers to stay warm, along with my down winter coat, a scarf and sometimes a hat. Walking from the car into work, is probably the most freezing trip ever, but why is it that as soon as I enter the front doors, I immediately start sweating profusely? LIKE HI, I was shivering just a few seconds ago, why do I feel like a menopausal women experiencing her first heat flash?! Ugh.

7. Girls who insist on wearing cheap, collapsed UGG boots. Clearly these boots are not offering you the support you need. And you have officially made the transition from fashionable winter glam, to homeless girl looking for money. I don’t understand how these are even comfortable!! All I know, is that it’s time to retire the cheap, leanin’ boot and buy a nicer (maybe pricier?) pair that won’t collapse on you, making you look like frosty the fool.

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8. Having to pay for coat check at the bar. 9 out of 10 times, in the winter, I’ll refuse going to the bar. I mean I already look pale, have scaly skin and it’s freezing outside. On top of all that, I have to pay $10 to check my coat?! UH no thanks. I’ll wait until the summer comes, so I can skip the winter jacket and just wear shorts and a tank. Call me cheap, but I know you’re all thinking it too! That’s a glass of wine I could be enjoying..

9. Wet socks. I don’t even really think this one needs an explanation. I’m sure at some point we have all endured a long day in gross, wet socks. The most uncomfortable feeling EVER. Not about it.

10. Holiday foods, comfy clothes and comfort movies = weight gain! In the winter, we all go into hibernation mode. We lose our motivation to go to the gym. We all start attending holiday functions where lots of yummy and delicious treats are shared and left over. It’s always easier to throw on a pair of lulu’s and a big sweatshirt when you get home. Personally, I like to indulge and watch Home Alone or Love Actually over and over. Then as soon as winter’s over, we go into panic mode…WHAT DO YOU MEAN I HAVE TO WEAR A BIKINI IN 3 MONTHS?! Winter likes to bitch slap us in the face sometimes.
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I think I need a permanent vacation this winter.

version 2.0

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For those of you that follow my blog on the regular, you know that I’ve already written a piece about all the “things that really irk me” (Here is the link for those who haven’t read it: things that really irk me). Well, turns out….I didn’t exactly include EVERY thing in that post because within the last few weeks I’ve discovered a whole new set of pet peeves that irritate the crap out of me that I just need to get off my chest and share with you.

Warning: This whole blog post is going to be a huge humble jumble of bitterness from yours truly. So enjoy! (OH and sorry in advance if you do ANY of these things – for both of our sakes)

Here’s my (second) list:

1. When girls wear high heels to sporting events. Oh, I’m sorry…did I miss the memo that the Roger’s Centre has turned into a dance club and dress attire is now required? Give your head a shake women. Your boyfriend or significant other is most definitely NOT paying attention to the sexy shoes you have on your feet, but rather the huge man crush they have on Brett Lawrie or Joffrey Lupul. Go home and change into flats, girl.

2. Guys that wear white sunglasses. Hate to break it to you kid, but if you’re wearing white sunglasses you’re the ultimate douche. Pauly D is calling, he wants you to go back to Jersey Shore where you belong. (Also, the fact that there’s a whole Facebook group dedicated to the “White Douche Bag Sunglasses faux pas” is hilarious to me)

3. When people don’t introduce you to others. No big deal, I’ll just stand here listening to your 30 minute conversation with your long-lost friend that you just ran into. LIKE…HI, this is AWKWARD! I’m sorry (not really), but if you don’t make any attempt to introduce me to someone you’re talking to, then you’re just plain rude and clearly have some growing up to do.

4. When people call me Alex. Yes people, my given name is Alexandra. But don’t automatically assume that my nickname is Alex. Because, it’s not! My dad was a gem who decided he liked calling me Ali and it stuck. If you accidentally call me Alex, it’s not a huge deal (I’ll let it slide), but if you call me Alex and I correct you by saying “Oh..it’s actually Ali” that doesn’t give you the right to keep calling me Alex. I will one punch you.

5. Girls who obnoxiously display their humongous boobs. Maybe it’s a jealousy thing cause I have smaller boobs, but I really don’t think so. I don’t know if you know this girls, but your boobs go inside your shirt! (I know right? It’s a tough concept to grasp). Everyone can tell you have huge cans. You don’t need to have them pouring out of your top. 2 words: attention whores.

6. Guys that come across too aggressive and want to dirty text right away. This is my ultimate number one turn off. Yep…I have a vagina, and you have a penis, and it’s a natural thing to have (protected) sexual relations with one another. But you don’t need to ask me for dirty pictures or talk dirty to me within 5 seconds of texting. In case you didn’t know, I’m actually an intelligent girl and enjoy having meaningful conversations beyond just “Oh yeah baby, I’m so horny” …UGH GROSS! Stop!

7. Telemarketers/Spam Phone Calls. “Congratulations! This is your cruise ship captain talking. You’ve won a trip for two on our marvelous cruise ship…” LOL JK NO YOU DIDN’T. These phone calls are beyond annoying. I’m not sure what’s worse though…these automated phone calls that you can just hang up on. ORRRRR..the live person who takes a whole 3.5 seconds to respond to your initial “hello” and then immediately tries selling you something (even after you say you’re not interested and would like to be removed from their list). I can’t even imagine the rude comments that are said to these people. Sometimes I feel a little bad for them!

8. Timberland Shoes. Note: This does not apply to every single pair of timberland shoes out there, because there’s actually some stylish/nice pairs that some dudes could probably pull off. But in this particular case, I’m talking about the yellowish gangster ones. Just no! Your “timbo’s” are not attractive. Sorry bud.

9. When larger people (guys and girls) don’t dress appropriately for their body type. There is nothing wrong with being a bigger girl or guy! But… (1) if your ass is eating your shorts, (2) your dress is WAY too short and we can see all of your cellulite, or (3) your pants are too tight that love handles are forming, then something is seriously wrong. I’m not by any means a size 0 or 2. If anything I buy a size bigger so the clothing fits me appropriately and isn’t skin tight. I’m a huge advocate for dressing appropriately for your body type, which means…buying the right size, the right length and the right width of clothes!

10. Individuals who can’t do anything without their boyfriend/girlfriend. Yes…we know, you’re madly in love and want to jump up your lovers ass. But PLEASE for the sake of everyone around you…have your own space and time where you can enjoy a fun girls or guys night every now and then. And don’t even get me started on people who bail constantly on their friends to hang out with their BF/GF! Have fun being friends-less when you two break up. (#foreveralone)

So now that I’ve reached a whole new level of ‘Bitter Betty’ ..I’ll just call it quits for today. Hope all of you enjoyed my little rant on the ever-so-lovely society we live in! Feel free to add to my forever growing list of things that really irk me!

Peace out fools! xo.

you “drive” me crazy

After a long commute to and from Toronto today, it has been brought to my attention that there are some serious bad drivers out there! It seems that everywhere I travel to lately, I’m constantly sharing the road with idiotic people who have zero idea how to drive properly! So only naturally…I decided I would blog about all the things that irritate me while I’m driving (I’m not pointing any fingers, but if you do any of the things I’m about to discuss, you suck! haha)

1. People who don’t move up in the right lane to let the car behind them turn.
Oh cool, you have several feet of open space in front of your car and you’re going to make me sit through this entire red light because you’re too lazy to move up a tiny bit to let me through. Yeah..no prob! (If you didn’t insert the sarcastic tone when reading that statement, please go back and re-read). This is definitely the number one thing that annoys me about people. They don’t pay attention to the cars around them and definitely don’t check their mirrors frequently enough to know when to move up.

2. When the advanced green light comes on and the car ahead of you doesn’t turn immediately, causing you to miss the light.
UGH! Quit day dreaming and/or texting your friend! Nothing is worse than having to wait for the person ahead of you to get their act together when you’re raring to go. I have places to be and people to see…I don’t need you dilly dallying through the advanced green. If you do this, I will honk at you!

3. People who think bicycles are 10 feet wide.
There is no need for drivers to veer into oncoming traffic or drive slowly behind the cyclist the entire way home. Especially if there is a bike lane. Helloooo! A cyclist is the same width as a person walking. Staying in your own lane or slightly moving over if the bike lane is narrow is plenty of space for the cyclist to ride safely. Common sense people!

4. People who pass you on the highway for no purpose.
Great, you’re ahead of me by 2.3 seconds. Do you feel better about yourself now? I don’t understand why you’re hurrying up, just to wait behind a huge line of other cars? It makes no sense to me why people pass others if there is absolutely no purpose. You’re only making the roads dangerous and being an ass. Simple as that.

5. People who sit right in your blind spot.
If you’re a good driver and went to your driver’s education course…You know exactly where the ‘blind spots’ are around a vehicle. It’s not cool to just coast along side of me where I can’t see you. You deserve to be side swiped if you do this!

6. Sunday Drivers.
Example: It’s a Friday afternoon. Why are you going 5 or 10 under the speed limit? Don’t you know that everyone on the planet is excited to be starting their weekend? Slow drivers actually cause more accidents than those who are careless and speed. Fun fact. If you want to drive slowly, take it to a parking lot people! Ain’t nobody got time for that.

7. When people leave their signal light on after making a lane change.
I realize this is something so trivial, but it really bothers me. You’re only causing confusion for the drivers around you. Plus, I don’t understand how people don’t realize their blinker is still on. Can’t you hear the annoying clicking?!

8. People that pull into the middle turning lane last minute.
Um hi, the butt of your car is sticking out into my lane…making it a little difficult to get by you. Maybe if you thought about where you were going ahead of time, you could have pulled into the turning lane earlier and we wouldn’t be stuck in this situation (Literally).

Yes…I understand, some of you may accidentally commit one or two of these “driving crimes” throughout your lifetime. It happens to the best of us. But if you’re constantly doing these things, it’s quite clear that you should start taking public transit! #sorrynotsorry

What are your biggest driving pet peeves?

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