the good, the bad, the ugly

I’ve always considered myself to be a pretty stand up, honest person. If I’m feeling a certain way because of something someone did, I’m going to let them know. I don’t think I have always been this way necessarily, but as I’ve grown up I’ve come to realize that things won’t change until you let people know what you want changed.

When it comes to relationships with others, I strongly believe that you should be open and honest about anything. Whether it’s telling your friend that the shirt she is wearing isn’t the most flattering, telling your significant other how something they did made you feel (good or bad), or talking about an issue that arose based on someone else’s actions (or lack there of). I’m not saying that being rude or blunt is the solution. I just think, that if you are truly upset because of something that happened, you need to determine what that relationship means to you. If it’s an insignificant bond that you don’t overly care about, then it’s probably just best to leave the issue and focus on other relationships in your life that make you happy. However, if it’s someone you deeply care for, then an expression of how you feel needs to be shared, regardless of how difficult it is. That’s the only way you can hope for a positive change with him or her.

I know what you’re thinking…easier said than done! Everyone knows that the truth isn’t usually what a person wants to hear. Reality check: It’s not always going to be rainbows and butterflies! Many of us dread telling people how we really feel. But the way I look at it is, if the person you are addressing is a true friend or a dedicated partner they are going to respect you. Yes, they may feel a little attacked at first (I think it’s only natural). But, once they’ve had time to decompress and think about it, they’re going to listen to you and try to solve the issue together because they care for you just as much as you care for them.

If they don’t do any of the things above, well then…maybe it’s time to re-evaluate and reflect. Is that the type of person you want in your life? Do they value the relationship as much as you do? Do they care how you feel? Will they stick around through the good, the bad, the ugly?

It’s difficult to face the reality of these questions because we don’t want to accept the truth behind them (probably ’cause we know the truth ain’t rainbows or butterflies!) But maybe this truth will set us free. Maybe knowing the answers will allow us to make a tough, but necessary decision about the status of the relationship. You get to decide.

I know for me personally, I’d rather have a few truthful relationships, than many disloyal relationships. What about you?

jlennon

an indecisive battle

Who knew the creation of a blog would consist of so many complex decisions. When I started this process I definitely thought it was going to be a ‘wham, bam thank you ma’am’ kind of deal. Turns out it took me a little longer to develop the basics to my “online diary.” This probably has much to do with the fact that I’m quite possibly the most indecisive person ever!

First, the development of the name was trickiest of all. Ideally, I wanted something young, fresh and new. Did I think it was going to take me essentially an entire day or two to think of it? Of course not. But, finally it came to me while I was hanging out with my best friend and listening to my home girl Kelly Clarkson. Voilà! Confessions of a Beautiful Disaster was born. And needless to say, I’m quite pleased with it.

Just when I think I can get this show on the road, I realize that I have to pick a website “theme.” You all need to know something…trying to figure out what theme to pick is the equivalent to a girl trying to pick her outfit for a big date. It basically went something like this:

“Oh this one looks so cute!”
“Let me try this one out…Oh, EW”
“I think I really like the original one I picked.”

 2.5 hours later, I manage to make my final decision. (Fun fact: My choice was hugely based on the movie Up! – I’m not 5 years old or anything). I’m sure at some point during my blogging experience, it’ll change. But for now, I’m sticking with it.

Now all that’s left for me to do is entertain you all. No pressure right? Stay tuned for all my rants and rambles that are to come.

It’s been peachy!

xo.