Yes, break ups suck. Whether it’s someone you’ve been in a long-term, committed relationship with or someone you’ve dated casually for only a couple months, they’re never an easy thing to deal with. No one likes being hurt (I mean, unless you’re into that kind of thing….). So yeah, break ups tend to make us all a little uneasy.
With this being said, I think how you handle a break up says A LOT about your character. Based on my own experiences and those that I’ve heard of from friends and/or family, I believe that there are two types of “break up personalities.”
1. There are the people who are naturally very upset and hurt over the break up, but handle the situation maturely and try to move on (without slandering their ex’s name),
2. There are the people who obnoxiously stroke their own ego by rudely and aggressively shit-talking their ex (AKA. the ‘bitter breakup betty’s!’)
If you’re a “number two” break up person (no pun-intended), then I strongly suggest you reevaluate your life choices. It’s one thing to be hurt and not agree with how things were handled in the relationship. But it’s another to speak ill words about intimate relations you had with that person (someone you cared about at one time). Hate to break it to you friend, but you are NO where near being perfect, which is probably the reason why your ex didn’t want to stay with you in the first place. So instead of being immature and bitter, try being a big boy/girl and take the break up graciously. Because, at no point in time, is it EVER appropriate to be judging your ex or slandering his/her name to others. Figure it out.
So what do you do if you have a “number two” ex (LOL) on your hands? I understand sometimes it’s hard to hold your composure and usually your initial instinct is to rip their head off. BUT, before you make any sort of rash decisions, take a step back, think about the situation. Do you look like a total crazy? Nope. Do they they look like a total crazy? Yup! 100% without a doubt, they look like a bat-shit crazy person who time-traveled back to high school.
So essentially, you win. Don’t stoop to their level. Be cool. And remember, you’re not with them anymore (Thank God for that!)